Tips For Dealing With Negative People

If you follow me on social media, you may have seen my post selfie workout picture from last night.

Post Workout Picture

If you don’t follow me on social media, you should. Here’s a shameless linking to my Facebook, Twitter, and Instagram pages.

Anyways, along with the above picture, I posted the following status:

Guess what people?! SMILING and being appreciative is way easier, nevermind healthier, than complaining all the time! Tonight’s smiling post workout selfie is dedicated to just sweating off all the negative vibes around me lately.

I’m seriously struggling with the amount of naysayers in my life right now. I’m not going to use this post to ramble on and on with complaints (because then I’d be a little hypocritical, no?), but I just don’t understand how anyone can have that much to whine about. Or that much time to do it!

You know what I want to start calling these people?

Energy vampires.

Because when people are overly pessimistic, it just sucks the energy right out of you, even after your conversation or interaction is over. And lately I feel like I am surrounded by negative nancys and can’t escape. It’s like being surrounded by a bunch of walkers in The Walking Dead, except I guess then we’d be talking about energy zombies instead of energy vampires. Either way, all the negativity is leaving me drained, extra cynical, and to be honest, completely burned out.

So instead of letting all the energy vampires suck all the passion right out of me, last night I resolved to first go to the gym and get a kick ass workout, something that always helps my mood. I was awkwardly bear crawling all over the gym, through and around people giving me all sorts of weird looks. I did another bodyweight deadlift, and I felt AWESOME when I left. During my workout and on my drive home, I thought about how I can try to remove myself a bit from all the negativity bubbling up lately.

If you are dealing with something similar, whether at work or in your personal life, here are some of my tips for dealing with negative people:

  • Breathe: Sometimes taking a deep breath or two before responding to someone who has nothing positive to say can really help you stay positive yourself.
  • Empathize: Try to put yourself in the other person’s shoes to see where they are coming from.
  • Don’t argue: Usually there is no rationalizing, and it just adds fuel to the fire. You might not be able to control the other person, but you can control your reaction to them.
  • Wait to respond: If you can, wait before interacting with the person. I know for me, if I let something go until the next day instead of responding right away, it helps because I’m no longer in the heat of the moment.
  • Disengage: If doing the above doesn’t work for you, simply disengage. You don’t have to get together with people who “zap you” (something we talked a LOT about at the health and wellness retreat I went to this weekend). You don’t have to respond. You simply don’t. You don’t have to give in to toxic co-workers, family members, or friends.

Aside from the above, some of my favorite strategies include hitting the gym, going for a long walk outside, listening to upbeat music, cleaning (yup!), spending time in the sun, reading, or having a glass of wine. And maybe some chocolate. Or some chips and salsa. With extra guac. 🙂

Walt Whitman Sunshine Quote

I’m not sure where to source this from, but I saw this quote on Caroline’s Instagram this morning, and it’s just what I needed to see.

Let’s chat–
Do you
have any negativity going on in your life right now? What are your tips for dealing with negative people?

Here’s to hoping this is all just lingering from Friday the 13th and the full moon last week!

Monday Motivation: Courage

I’m not gonna lie, I had been dreading this weekend for a while.  ONLY because I felt like it was jam-packed with things and that I wouldn’t have any time to breathe, but you know what?  I had such a good weekend that I feel bad that I dreaded it in the first place!  We had our friends’ Nicole & Pete’s wedding on Friday night, a huge Greek dance with 30 of my family members on Saturday night, and we ran the Oaktoberfest 5k race at the Y yesterday.  And we ended up having more downtime than I thought we would.  In fact, I even took a NAP on Saturday afternoon for the first time in what felt like years.  So I feel rested despite all the busyness and fun stuff!

Nicole & Pete's Wedding

Greek Dance

Oaktoberfest 5k

Monday Motivation: Courage

Last week I stumbled upon another little quote I want to share with you guys today:

“Courage doesn’t always roar.  Sometimes courage is the quiet voice at the end of the day saying, ‘I will try again tomorrow.'”

This is so true.  Courage doesn’t always have to mean trying the most popular group exercise class, running a half marathon, or eating perfectly in any given week.  It doesn’t have to mean having the guts to go sky diving or rock climbing.  It just means the ability to do something that maybe scares you a little.  And maybe what scares you is trying.  Whatever that is for you this week, just try.  Have the courage to take the first step.  To be okay with baby steps.  Or maybe it’s taking your last step in the direction you want to go in.  No matter how big or how small, have the courage to not get down on yourself, to not give up, and to keep trucking away no matter what obstacles or challenges you face.

Weekly Workouts

Weekly Workouts

Last Week’s Workouts

Last week it felt like I had an extra good week of workouts, which was much-needed after my extra snacky week last week!

2 mile run + push tempo strength sets

30 minutes of elliptical intervals + pull tempo strength sets

1 hour of Kickboxing, followed by teaching my Interval Training class.  We did about 60% of the exercises traveling across the floor style, followed by about 20 minutes of floor work.  I said I wasn’t going to do as much of the working out as I was teaching, but I lied. 

Tried out a new studio and new class!  I love, love, LOVED my experience at FitHouse and can’t wait to recap it for you guys this week.


Taught this stations workout in my class… everyone rocked it!  I used Thursday as my rest day and only taught since I was so sore from my workouts earlier in the week.

Stations Class

Stations Class

Ran a light three miles in the morning, followed by some core work.  I didn’t want to be too sore for the race I ran this weekend!

Greek dancing, all night.  I’m not joking, this is not a cop-out for my rest day – Greek dancing is a serious cardio workout – we were all drenched, my calves were tight, and my shoulders felt the burn from holding my arms up for so long!

This Week’s Workouts

  • Sunday:  Ran the Oaktoberfest 5k… recapping that tomorrow!
  • Monday:  Since my legs are dead and my hips are super tight, I’m planning to do an upper body focused workout.  With rowing! Does anyone have any good rowing workouts they’d like to share?
  • Tuesday:  Two A Day!
  • Wednesday:  Either a rest day or I’m going to try to make it to a cycle class
  • Thursday:  My 6am class
  • Friday: Workout TBD… suggestions?
  • Saturday:  Rest day

What are you going to face with courage this week?

Words for the Weekend

Words for the Weekend